Are parts of your body making you look older…even faster than your face? Let’s face it, most of us gals do a pretty good job cleaning, exfoliating, moisturizing, protecting and making up our faces so that we look as youthful and beautiful as possible. But could other parts of your body be letting the cat out of the bag? In fact, these five body parts could even be fibbing on you, making you look older than you are.
I’m not against aging
Let’s get that straight right from the start. I much prefer getting older over the alternative. And I would rather own my age and celebrate the life I’ve lived rather than go to ridiculous lengths to pretend I’m something I’m not, namely young. I feel I have earned my gray hairs, the tiny lines around my eyes and the seasoned patina of my hands. But that doesn’t mean I want to look older than I really am. Nor does it mean that I want to “look old” in general. Regardless of my age, I want to look beautiful…my very best.
And I don’t want to draw attention to my age. I want my appearance to match what is inside…vitality, enthusiasm, intelligence, wisdom and lots of grace.
So let’s look beyond the face we so carefully scrutinize in the mirror and discover the other 5 parts of our bodies that may be aging us faster than we’d like. And let’s learn what we can do to minimize the effects of aging in those areas so that we look beautiful all over. I especially want to offer non-invasive procedures and tips that don’t cost a lot in any way.
Your Neck May be Telling on Your Face
We tend to care for the skin on our faces and leave out the skin on our necks. Literally. We leave it out in the sun, unshielded. We leave it out in the elements, under-nourished and exposed to the harsh environment. And we leave out our necks when we’re applying the corrective serums we apply to our faces.
The skin on your neck is delicate and easily damaged, and can make you look older than you are. So what can we do to correct and stop the damage?
- Wear at least an SPF 15 or higher sunscreen (I recommend at least SPF 30). Yes, we should have been doing this all the years, not just now. But better late than never. I wear CeraVe Tinted Mineral Sunscreen SPF 30 on my neck and face. I like that it adds just a little bit of healthy color to my neck so I don’t have to extend my makeup onto this area. Meanwhile, tell your daughters to consistently wear a strong sunscreen on their necks and chests.
- Exfoliate your neck area when you exfoliate your face and/or body. Dry, patchy skin contributes to the aged appearance of our necks. As my skin has aged and become finer, I appreciate a chemical exfoliant such as Paula’s Choice Daily Smoothing Treatment with 5% Alpha-Hydroxy Acid, which can be used daily (always with sunscreen), or Paula’s Choice Advanced Smoothing Treatment with 10% AHA, which you might want to work up to.
- Apply the same products to your neck that you put on your face, including cleansers, toners, moisturizers, and age-defying serums. I wrestle with extending these sometimes pricey products down and onto my neck. But if I want my neck to look as young as the skin on my face, I need to spread the love…and the ointments! I’m currently using Estee Lauder’s Advanced Night Repair Serum, and a little goes a long way. I’m getting great results! But I’ve also shared the L’Oreal Age Perfect Cell Renewal Midnight Serum here before and can highly recommend it for a lower price point and good results.
I also started using Estee Lauder’s Resilience Multi-Effect Night Tri-Peptide Face & Neck Creme a couple of months ago. This super thick night cream is formulated to work hard while your skin rests and recovers from the daytime exposure to the elements. This cream has been a game-changer for me. I am truly seeing noticeable improvement with the deep lines and crepiness in my neck. The key is to apply it from your forehead all the way down onto your decolletage.
- Wear your jewelry so that it draws attention away from your neck. You may need to rethink those earrings that dangle long onto your neck. If your neck does age you (as mine does) stay away from chokers and other short necklaces. Instead choose necklaces that pull your attention down to a pretty pendant. Leave the neck area free of jewelry and use pretty and/or bold earrings to draw your attention up toward your face. Honestly, this is a good tip, but I don’t always follow it. So don’t overthink this! But this is exactly why I chose to wear pretty, light-filled earrings and no necklace for my daughter’s wedding.
- Don’t be afraid to show some skin. It might seem that you should cover your neck up with turtle necks or other high collars. That’s fine when there’s truly a chill in the air. But in warm temperatures, all that does is draw undesirable attention to your neck. “Hmm. What’s she hiding under there?” Instead, go ahead and where a pretty neckline on your top or dress, one that opens this area up so that you look more relaxed and confident. Just wear that sunscreen!
- If you do wear a scarf, tie it in such away that it doesn’t draw attention up to your neck. Perhaps tie it loosely so that it drapes on your shoulders or hangs low.
If Your Hair is Your Crown…
I’ve heard it said that a woman’s hair is her crown. Indeed, I think we tend to notice someone’s hair before we even get a good look at their face, especially if we spot them from behind. So let’s make sure our hair isn’t dating us.
- It’s not about the gray. I think the case has been made sufficiently that gray hair can indeed be beautiful. Yes, we may experience a little discomfort as we grow it out. There is no easy way to go from brunette to gray. But if you’re ready to go gray, go for it! Embrace the gray.
- However…we all automatically associate gray with age. So we do have to consider how to compensate. That’s the key. Recognize gray as “strike 1,” so to speak, and make sure you don’t swing and miss two more times. You can still hit a homerun with a strike against you, by the way. And you can have beautiful gray hair. But that’s all the more reason to keep your eye on the ball in other areas. Keep reading.
- Keep your hair healthy. As we age, our hair loses some of its vitality. Every hairdresser I’ve talked to in recent years tells me the number one factor most women fight as they age is loss of moisture in their hair. Even women who think they have lots of moisture sometimes mistake frizzy, humidified hair for moisture. The truth is that those humidity frizzes could be an indication that your thirsty hair is trying to drink up the moisture in the air. Moisturizing your hair could actually help alleviate some of the frizz!
I like Hair Biology products for aging hair. I use the moisturizing shampoo, moisturizing conditioner and the deep conditioning hair mask (once a week or so). And sometimes, if I feel like my grey is looking a little dull, I swap in the purple violet silver shampoo and silver conditioner. But Hair Biology, sold only at Target, also has formulations for color treated hair and thinning hair.
I’ve recently starting using a heat protectant on my hair before styling with the hairdryer or flat iron, too. You might try Bumble & Bumble’s Bond Building Thermal Protection Mist.
- Wash your hair as rarely as possible. Now I’m not advocating greasy or unkempt hair. But washing and especially drying our hair actually takes a toll. And for you ladies who do color your hair, did you know that water is actually enemy #1 to color-treated hair? So cut down the frequency of washing your hair if at all possible. I wash mine twice a week, about every four days.
- Many, maybe even most, women will experience some hair thinning as we age. The causes for hair loss are many and varied. One of the best articles I found for explaining different prompts for hair loss or thinning is this one at Health. Regardless of the reason behind your thinning hair, there are a few things you can do to help it look fuller and healthier. You might try a volumizing shampoo and conditioner. And Hair Biology also has a Biotin Thickening Spray. Also, keep styling to a minimum. Over-styling and applying too much heat will only speed up the thinning process.
- Loosen up your style. Regardless of your hair color or thickness, you can hit a home run by paying attention to this one tip. Ask your hair stylist to help you settle on a current style that is easy to manage, soft around your face (think bangs or wispy layers) and free falling. Even more than gray or thinned hair, tightly constructed and over-managed hairstyles age us.
- But do have a style. If you’re reading this blog post, you’re probably too old to just let your hair go. In fact, I’m not sure anyone looks great with unstyled hair. But as we get older, hair that isn’t well cut and cared for tends to age us even more.
Give it to me Straight!
Okay, ladies, it’s time to discuss one of those things few people like to tell us about the realities of life. As we get older, it is normal to become a little more stooped, to lose a little height and for our gait to change. Yes, it happens to most of us. Our shoulders and back are the third body area that easily gives our age away.
So let’s talk posture. As we age, we naturally lose some bone, cartilage and muscle mass. Those losses and changes result in shifts in how we stand, sit and walk. But we can minimize the effects with these tips so we don’t look older than we are.
- Good posture begins with awareness. Try this little experiment. Set a timer on your phone or kitchen timer for 45 minute increments throughout the day for one day. Every time the timer goes off, check your posture. Whether you’re checking emails, standing in line at the store, walking, ironing clothes, gardening, whatever, how is your posture? Now correct it and try to purposefully maintain good posture as long as you are thinking about it.
- Here’s a good way to correct your posture. Stand up with weight distributed equally on both feet or sit up with your weight squarely on your rump. Now raise both shoulders straight up toward the ceiling. Gently pull them back. Hold this position for a few seconds. Now gently drop your shoulders to where they rest easily. Your ear lobes should be in line with your shoulders. More than likely your posture is much improved right now.
- How heavy is your shoulder bag? I know I’m prone to accumulating too much stuff in my bag, and it gets heavy! We need to either keep the weight out of our shoulder bags or use a handbag instead.
- Exercise regularly. Just a 30 minute walk most days of the week helps tremendously with maintaining good posture and gait.
- Stretch out. After exercising, when your muscles are warm and loose, get in a session of long stretches. Learn how to stretch correctly (maybe that will be a future blog post – I learned from a wonderful trainer years ago and would love to pass on to you the correct way to stretch) and take your time. But also, just reach for the stars and strrrrretch a few times during the day, especially if you’ve been sitting long.
- Strengthen your core. Pilates and yoga are great ways to build muscle and stability in your core. Or just add some planks to your normal weight training routine.
- Speaking of weight training, do it. Strengthen your muscles with full body weight training three times a week. Make sure to include exercises that strengthen the back, shoulders, chest and abdominal muscles. Stronger muscles will support your spine resulting in better posture. I have improved my strength, my energy level and my posture exponentially with the FASTer Way to Fat Loss fitness program. I’ve lifted weights all my adult life, but the program has helped me venture out and lift more and differently, and I can tell a big difference in my strength and muscel mass. I’d be glad to tell you more about it if you email me.
- Eat healthy and get plenty of vitamin D and calcium. While I’m all for getting your vitamin D through 30 minutes daily of unprotected sun exposure, as we get older that may not be enough. Even when I lived in sunny Arizona and exercised outside most days I still didn’t get enough vitamin D without taking a supplement.
Where are the girls?
I don’t have much to fill one of the pieces of equipment pictured above, but some of you do. And the more you have, the more gravity can pull downward as time marches on. So it’s important to keep “the girls” sitting pretty. Y’all, this is a game changer. A well-fitted and supportive bra can take 5-10 years off your perceived age. And it improves your posture!
- Get fitted by a professional. Most department stores provide this service, as does Soma. Or check out Wacoal’s online bra fitting resources. You can use their mybraFit™ app or use their easy to follow online instructions for doing your own bra fitting. Our bra size and fit changes with weight increase or decrease, age and shifts in posture.
- Take good care of your bras. You should probably have two or three flesh toned bras. Others are icing on the cake. Bra manufacturers say you should alternate the bra you wear every day. You don’t have to wash a bra after one wearing, but you should wear a different one the next day. They say the elastics in the bands need 24-48 hours to return to their original position. Sounds strange to me, but I’ve heard this rule of thumb often enough and from enough reliable sources that I think it’s worth following. And I don’t ever put my bras in the dryer.
- Replace your bras every 8 to 10 months. I know. They’re expensive. But remember, this is an area of your body that really weighs in on your perceived age! And a good bra will make your clothes look so much better on you, too.
I have a thing for hands. Which makes it all the stranger that I tend to think that nobody notices mine. In fact, we probably all notice each others hands a lot more than we assume. We talk with our hands, love with our hands, praise the Lord with our hands, teach with our hands and cheer on our favorite team with our hands. Of course people notice!
As we age our hands take on the patina of time. We begin to notice sun spots, fine wrinkles, crepey skin, protruding veins, scaly skin and weathered nails that make us look older. Some aging signs can’t be helped, but we can do a few things to soften the story our hands tell.
- Use a good hand cream regularly. I like City Beauty’s Restoring Hand Treatment. I use this heavy hitter every night when I go to bed. (Use code KAY15 for 15% off your order.) But I also apply this Gold Bond Healing Hand Cream several times throughout the day. I try to apply some every time I get in the car, after I wash dishes or after washing my hands.
- Use sunscreen here, too. Age spots actually have nothing to do with age and everything to do with accumulated sun exposure. While most of us didn’t think to apply hand cream with SPF protection during our younger years, we can start now. Before heading outdoors apply a dime-size dollop of hand cream with sunscreen. You might try Eucerin Daily Hydration Hand Cream SPF 30.
- You could try a spot corrector. If age spots are really noticeable, you might try an over-the-counter corrector. I like City Beauty’s Illuminating Dark Spot Corrector, which you can use on your face, hands or neck. (use code KAY15 for 15% off.)
- Slough off dry skin with a sugar scrub. Try using an exfoliating scrub such as Tree Hut Shea Sugar Scrub weekly.
- Maintain a classic manicure. Not every woman wants painted nails, and that’s fine. And some women prefer to keep their nails trimmed short because of the work they do. So I’m not advocating that every woman manicure her hands the same. But if I want my hands to tell my story and not the tale of a much older woman, I’m wise to keep my nails looking clean, healthy and nicely shaped. I shared how to do a home manicure in this previous post. And my nail tech is constantly reminding me to apply cuticle oil daily, which can make a significant difference in keeping our hands looking younger. I also like this one by Burt’s Bees.
Aging is really a gift, not a curse. Subtle physical signs of aging tell the world that we have lived long enough to have experienced both joy and grief, success and failure, sweet indulgences and hard work, peaceful moments and difficult seasons. But let’s make sure our bodies are telling the best story, a beautiful story. Let’s take care of ourselves and continue to put our best foot forward. (Ahh, those feet. That’s another post for another day!)
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9 thoughts on “5 Body Parts Making You Look Older Than You Are”
Thanks for this really informative post. I’ve followed you for several years so some of it was a fresher but I learned something new! I just replaced my bras and have started washing them by hand, but I had never heard that you need to give them time off! Good to know.
Kay, this is one of my favorite posts! Lots of great information for those of us on the +side of 60, (I’m 67). Thank you so much for taking the time to pull all of this information together. Also, thank you for reminding us that we need to look at ourselves as a whole and not just our faces so that we present ourselves in our best way possible.
Oh Kay, what a wonderful blog and way to start my day. Thank you so much! I enjoyed seeing the products that you use and I will purchase some. And I also enjoyed your discussion on posture!! I’m 5’9” and I find myself stooping over more. Oh no. I love your suggestion to set a timer. My mom noticed how I am standing so I ordered this ‘back corrector’ to see if it would help retrain me but it really hurt…so back it went. Thank you for your suggestions! I will give it a try. Have a blessed day.
All such great advice! At 71 I can attest to many, if not all, the signs of aging but like you say I’m blessed to experience the process. To your list I would add dental care. Very often I’ll meet women who do not take care of their teeth and to me it’s a tell tale sign of one’s age and health. I choose to have my teeth cleaned 4 times a year by the dental hygienist in my dentist’s office and it keeps my teeth white. Enjoy your blog and great advice!
Wow!!!! Kay, this is definitely one of my favorite posts you have written….and I read them daily. I am 56 years old and can resonate oh so well with many of these. I really needed all of your suggestions. I will also share with you that I “ditched the dye” in March of this year. I went from my medium/dark brunette shoulder length to past my shoulders hairstyle to getting it cut every month shorter and shorter. Then….the big chop of a short Pixie cut in July to cut off a lot of the brown. I am 95% silver and white. I also use the purple shampoo and conditioner and only shampoo my hair twice a week. It has taken some getting used to having my hair short. I want to let it grow out some so I’m not sure how the end result will be. I will say I absolutely love my natural hair color. It actually brightens my complexion. I have received many compliments which has been greatly needed as I feel insecure at times. Getting your hair chopped off and going completely cold turkey is a huge change for me. I am forever grateful for my thick hair so when I do feel insecure I look at the good…my thick hair. Not having to color my roots every 4 weeks have been so “freeing”…if that makes sense. I have learned that I had to “let go of my old hairstyle and color” and “accept and embrace my natural God given color I have now”. I always enjoy your BFMF posts and todays is extra special to me🥰. Thank you so much for all your time that you spend on your posts and videos.
Todays blog was the best! It opened Ny eyes to 2-3 things I might do differently! Thank you Kay!
Your hands are lovely Kay and I’m glad you mentioned that today! I am going to Target to buy the Goldbond hand cream today! I haven’t tried that yet and nothing else has worked for me!
I just “found” you, Kay, a few weeks ago & enjoy your blog. I quit coloring my hair when I was 60 & I’m now 72. My hair is completely white & I always get compliments on the color. It was very freeing! Your post today was so informative & you radiate health & beauty. Your daily comments on faith are so refreshing & lift my spirits as does your smile.
Very helpful post today, Kay! You mentioned keeping our physical body in good working order and I highly recommend “Move with Nicole” on YouTube. She posts Pilates videos weekly and they are wonderful. I practiced yoga in-person and online for five years but now I do daily Pilates. I walk for a half hour in my neighborhood and then do Pilates first thing in the morning. It has been a game-changer for my body. Thank you for all the reminders on how to stay vibrant and keep up our appearance as we continue being blessed with aging.