Hi! I’m Kay Harms, a professional writer, speaker and mentor. I started Dressed for My Day to encourage myself and other 40+ women to care for and dress our bodies in a way that helps us influence our world positively and with grace.
Maybe you, like me, sometimes feel like a young girl in a much older woman’s body. Maybe you feel like you can’t keep up with the changes in your body much less the constantly evolving fashion and beauty trends. Shoot! I didn’t really figure out how to style my hair until I was about 40, and then it began turning gray!
My mission here is to remind us that, while our bodies are indeed changing, we are still powerful influencers in our homes, workplaces and communities. We have wisdom, grace, compassion, understanding and a helping hand to contribute.
So we need to get dressed for our day!
At Dressed for My Day you’ll find:
- wardrobe tips to help you dress the body you have now
- beauty products that work for mature hair, skin and nails
- fitness tips for the “experienced” (and sometimes tired!) body
- stylish clothing for every kind of day and
- lots of encouragement to keep your style relevant and vibrant so you can influence your world gracefully
Ladies, we’re all influencers. Let’s make sure we raise the bar everywhere we are today – home, church, work, community – by bringing beauty and enthusiasm with us.
I’m a Christ follower, mom of two, wife of a pastor and a full time writer, speaker and Bible teacher. I have a journalism degree in public relations from the University of Georgia. I’m from Georgia originally and I still prefer my tea sweet, but for the past 14 years we’ve lived in southern Arizona.
My kids, Daniel and Abigail, have grown and gone, but I enjoy visiting them as often as possible. And I’m really liking this empty nest phase of my marriage. My husband James and I are having a blast! In fact, he takes most of my photos here at Dressed for My Day.
Style blogging is a new venture for me. I think they call that a “second act.” But I’ve loved clothes, shopping, coordinating outfits and trying new beauty trends for as long as I can remember. I have my mom to thank for that.
During my preteen and teen years, my mother and I spent many Saturdays at a local mall, browsing the shops and lunching at a darling little sandwich shop called Cashin’s. Then we’d come home, exhausted, and lay all of our purchases out on the bed to admire and coordinate with items already in our closets. Such fun! And I still love shopping with my mom.
It’s always been important to me that my clothing communicates that I know what I’m doing. Even if I don’t! Ha! But honestly, I think that’s a worthy goal. As a woman of influence (remember that’s you, too) I don’t want my appearance to hinder my contribution. I want my appearance to give me credibility.
Studies in the area of enclothed cognition – that’s a recognized science of the effects of clothing on cognitive processes – indicate that what we wear makes a notable difference both in how we present ourselves and interact with others and in how others perceive and respond to us. That’s why we older gals need to style our hair, faces and bodies in a way that keeps us in the game — relevant, stylish, beautiful, but also appropriate for the bodies we have now.
I tend to buy classic and well-made (but not especially pricey) pieces that I take care of and keep in my closet for years. But my husband can attest that I can’t resist buying a few new fresh finds with the change of each season. A girl just needs some new pretties!
My clothes are mostly casual because I don’t work outside the home. When I speak at events, attend professional conferences or teach, I dress more professionally. Most importantly, I like to look pulled together and competent. I like classic clothing with subtle feminine details. I like color, but I don’t generally wear “loud” clothes.
I hope to see you around. I love comments, so join the conversation! Let’s build a community of women who want to dress for influence.
Still have questions? I’ve answered some of my most frequently asked questions here.