Welcome to Dressed for My Day! With another weekend fast approaching…and looking nothing like a normal weekend, I thought I’d share a few ideas for date nights…or days!…while social distancing.
How are you doing today? I really do think about you gals and how you’re enduring these trying days. Probably, like me, you’re great for the most part, but sinking a little when you least expect it. That’s why we have to go the extra mile with a little self-care these days.
But I also think it’s important to put a little more effort into our most important relationships. Whether our relationships are feeling a little rubbed raw from too much together time or they’re feeling empty and lackluster from little to no face time, we’re wise to take the temperature occasionally and make a few adjustments.
Today let’s think about one of our most important relationships…our marriages. While my husband and I are seeing about the same amount of each other as before, I find that we’re a little testy with one another sometimes. I’m definitely more moody than James, but he has his moments, too. So it’s very important that we stay intentional about enjoying some outings, laughing together and making time for just us.
Honestly, James and I haven’t really had what I’d consider a date night or outing since this COVID-19 social distancing began. And we need one. So this weekend, I plan to make that happen. Here are a few of my ideas. Maybe one or more of these will resonate with you and your spouse, too.
Pack a picnic
An outdoor picnic is a great idea right now, and doesn’t even sound all that original. But I do suggest you pack a blanket and/or your own chairs and table for your outing. Most picnic tables and pavilions are closed these days, and it’s definitely best not to use tables others may have just vacated before your arrival.
Take a stroll
Again, taking a walk may not seem that original. But the goal is simply to get outside, get some fresh air and sunshine and talk. I discovered many years ago that men are more likely to open up and really talk when they’re doing something side by side with you rather than sitting across from you. So the very same guy that answers all your probing questions with one or two words at the dinner table may spill the beans on a long walk through the neighborhood.
Go for a hike
I’ve heard that some parks are closed, so call ahead or check the websites. And you can bet that when you do find parks that are open, the restrooms will be closed. So definitely go to the restroom before leaving home and, yes, pack a little toilet paper and some plastic zipper closure bags in your backpack or pockets. Desperate times call for desperate measures! Ha! But I think getting into the woods and meandering through the trails will be oh so worth it.
Do a Drive Through
With so little traffic on the roads these days, this is a great time to just drive a little. Find a little town or neighborhood nearby that you’d like to “really visit” one day, but just do a drive through for now. Again, be sure to use the restroom before leaving home, pack your favorite road-trip snacks and head out for an hour or two. Maybe create a scavenger hunt list of things to look for as you drive through: spring flowers, blooming trees, children playing in their yard, kites flying, funny signs, etc.
Make Dinner Together & Eat Outside
Cook a favorite meal together, something a little unusual and out of the ordinary. Maybe a homemade pizza, Chinese food or seafood. Then set a pretty table on your deck, patio or porch. String some twinkly lights to make the area especially romantic and festive. Maybe even light some candles and play some nice music. James and I love classical guitar music. Dance together after dinner.
Toast Hot Dogs & Make S’Mores over a Fire Pit
This is a great time of year to have a fire in the outdoor fire pit. Get some roasting skewers and toast some wieners. Then roast marshmallows and make s’mores. Yum! Spend time sitting under the stars and enjoying the sounds of the night.
Go Say Hello!
Do a little good together. Get in your car and head to the homes of some of your friends. Maybe especially choose to visit some folks who are by themselves or who are very restricted to their homes because of age or immunity issues. When you get to their houses, call them with your cell phone and ask them to come just outside their door. Wave and tell them how glad you are to see them. Carry on a short conversation from your car with plenty of distance between you, wish them well and drive on to your next destination. Enjoy all the good feels!
Fly a Kite
Mine and James’ very first date was to a botanical garden where we ate a picnic of fried chicken and then flew a kite. James would correct me here. He flew the kite; I lost a kite…in a tree! Whether you go to a beach, an open park or just a wide open field, go fly a kite. And if you lose it, just laugh it off!
Enjoy Breakfast in Bed
Whether you prepare it together or you surprise him, breakfast in bed is always a treat! Cook up a favorite first meal, like pancakes, waffles or cinnamon rolls. Then enjoy them in bed. Afterwards, spend time together doing a crossword puzzle, reading to each other from your favorite web news or watching funny videos on YouTube.
Play a Game
We love board games but rarely think to play them between just the two of us. My parents, on the other hand, play cards together almost every day. Pull out a favorite board game or just a deck of cards and have fun! Top this “date” off with a take-out pizza or a charcuterie board made up of all the odds and ends in the fridge.
Remember, as with my earlier Revised Spring Bucket List, use your best judgment. I’ve tried to create a list of things that can be done safely and in good conscience during this time of social distancing. But if you feel that any of these activities put you or others at risk, definitely choose something else on the list. Do you have other ideas for fun and meaningful ways to spend time with your spouse during this odd time? I’d love to hear from you
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Blessed for My Day
I know not all of my readers are married. But today I’d simply like to ask a blessing over the marriages of those of you who are. I pray that God would somehow use this strange time to bring you and your husband closer to one another…and closer to Him. May you both be patient with one another, gentle and kind. And may God be honored through your conversations and interactions.
I also pray that you and your husband be preserved from this illness that is spreading throughout our land. And for those of you who are older or who have compromised immune systems, may you especially be protected from this hard virus. Take care of each other.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. ~ Genesis 2:24