Today I’m picking back up with my Inner Beauty posts on Saturdays. I took the summer off from these because I needed time to adjust to the pace of delivering videos every Wednesday. And, while the pace certainly hasn’t slowed down, I’m ready to resume exploring the qualities that make a woman beautiful from the inside out.
Let’s talk about change…
Whether we initiated and sought out a change or it sneaked up and knocked the wind out of us, adjusting to change is hard for many of us. Even the shifting of seasons is bittersweet for those of us who love one more than the others. “Going with the flow” is one thing when you’re leisurely kayaking down a gentle river, but it’s completely different when you feel like life as you knew it has suddenly disappeared.
Are you working through a change in life right now? Was it welcomed or has it been forced upon you? Have you had time to process it or was it sudden and overwhelming?
Whether life is in the process of changing right now or you know things could be different any day now, I have just a few thoughts on how we might navigate changes in life with grace.
- Be patient with yourself. Change is hard. No, I mean it’s really hard. Know that when you have to say goodbye to a loved one, move to a new place, start a new job, leave a job you loved, downsize or bury a beloved pet…you’re doing something really difficult. So give yourself a little grace. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling sad, tired, overwhelmed, uncertain or frustrated. These are normal emotions.
- Be courageous. Yes, change is hard. But you were created to be able to do hard things. Not alone, mind you. I believe we need God to help us navigate change well. And we also need other people. But you can do this. You are stronger than you think. And you can do hard things.
- Express your emotions calmly and ask for support. I find that big emotions are sometimes the hardest to express. I’m afraid if I open my mouth and start talking they may spew out like a torrent of water from a fire hydrant. But I think it’s important that I try to let at least one or two people in my life know that I’m going through something hard so they can pray for me, support me and offer me a little grace, too.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you’re going through a big change in life, you may need to let go of a few of the little things in life temporarily. Even little things that you enjoy may need to be put on hold for a season so that you can get your bearings in your new normal. That’s perfectly okay. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
- Let gratitude shape your attitude. I find it so helpful to turn my longings for the past into thankfulness for what used to be. While it’s counterproductive to cling to what was, it’s productive to feel grateful for what I had and to trust that what I may have lost will either be substituted with something else or I’ll learn, by God’s grace, to be content without it.
- Look for the new blessings. If we look back too long we may miss the good that is going on around us. Train yourself to look for the new blessings in your new situation. They’re there, I promise.
If you’re going through a change that has left you heartbroken, I’d like to suggest my Bible study, Joseph – Keeping a Soft Heart in a Hard Place. This in-depth 7-week Bible study explores the life of Joseph (son of Jacob) in Genesis 37-50. I wrote this study after struggling through a very difficult and painful change in my own life. Many women have said that it has helped them through painful seasons.
Do you have thoughts you’d like to share about today’s topic? I’d love to hear from you today! I tend to take as much time off from work as I can during the weekends, so I may not reply to your comments unless you ask me a direct question. But I’d love for you to carry on this conversation in the comment section below. And you can know for certain that I read and value each and every comment. Please remember that I try to keep this space free from controversy, so let’s stay away from the topic of politics or other divisive issues.
6 thoughts on “Navigating Change with Grace”
I’m so glad to see these posts again Kay! This one is especially meaningful to me as I am anticipating a major change in my life in the near future. Preparing for that change has definitely been stressful and an emotional roller coaster. I’m going to save this to read over and over as I navigate this time. Sometimes we get bombarded with “advice” from well-meaning people (who among us hasn’t thought that we know the best way for everyone to live their life, right?), so I like your point about seeking out one or two people who will pray for you when the going gets rough. I pray every day for God’s guidance in this season of life and for me to clearly see where He would have me and what I should be doing when I get there. This was much needed today, thank you!
Thank you for this beautiful post today, Kay! I too am going to save it to return to when necessary. Life is full of changes! I am so thankful we have a God who walks with us and gives up strength and peace! Enjoy your family! ?
What a wonderful, helpful post today, Kay. It was a blessing to me. Thank you.
Thank you for this post! It was a great blessing to me! Enjoy your weekend!
God bless you,
I’m so pleased you have resumed your Inner Beauty posts. Truly they are so meaningful and helpful to me. I ordered the book you mentioned, sadly, it is out of stock at the moment. I do hope it restocks quickly. I so look forward to every post on your blog.
This post is spot on. Change is hard for me. Thank you.