Good morning! Can you believe it’s December 1st?!? Wow! This year has absolutely flown by.
Especially since I started this style blog back in March, the days have just whizzed by. I’m used to being busy and engaged in some kind of writing project, but this blog has been a very unique beast! I’m thoroughly enjoying it and I’m determined to really work it, but it keeps me much busier and tied down than I had originally estimated.
Well, enough of that. I have something I’d like to share with you today of a more personal nature. I try to really pay attention to my readers and by this point I have a pretty good idea who you gals are. Not that you’re paper dolls all cut out of the same mold, by any means. I know you are unique and beautiful women, and I value the different things you all bring to the table.
But I’ve come to realize that many of you are in the same life stage as I am. Many, but not all, of you are either empty nesters or quickly approaching that phase. And even if you never had children, as I know some of you didn’t, life has changed very much for you in recent years. Perhaps you’ve tied a bow on your career and retired. Or maybe your husband has retired and you’re adjusting to having him in the home more. And, like me, maybe many of you have watched your kids move on both physically and emotionally.
Those are some tough changes, huh. I mean, they’re good. They’re natural and right and even biblical. But they’re just hard to stomach…on certain days…or dark nights…when the house feels different and the routines have changed and the memories feel fuller and weightier and more significant than the present. Know what I mean?
So what’s on my mind is the adjustments that have been required of me…and you. I’ve struggled some days with contentment. And I hate that because I felt like I worked hard through my 30s and 40s to become a contented woman. Ha! You know how I mean. Right? When you’re in your 20s you’re rarely very content. The grass looks greener anywhere and everywhere. And then in your 30s and 40s the temptation to look around and compare looms large and pulls at you constantly.
And then somewhere around your late 40s or so you realize, hey, I’m an okay gal. And life is good. And you quit comparing quite so much and you grow a little happier deep inside. You decide you don’t have to do or participate in every little fad that comes along. Like, thank you, but no, I will not go sky-diving. Or some of you have said, uh, no, I will not participate in Facebook. And some of you have said, no, I will not color my hair.
I mean you just finally get a back bone!! And you’re just…good. Things are good.
But y’all. These empty nest years are a big adjustment. And it’s not just the kids being gone. It’s the health and body changes. The dynamics of your marriage. The quiet house. That older woman in the mirror! The way other people treat you…like you’re older. Huh. It’s the way you get tired faster. And yet you don’t sleep as well. What in the world?!
Honestly, now that I’ve sat down and typed all this out, I realize I’m just ranting a little. I have no solutions to offer you or even any great revelations.
I’m just letting you know that while there may be a smiling face on this blog most days, there’s a normal woman with normal issues on the other side of the screen. I don’t sleep great most nights. Something different hurts most every day. And then it doesn’t anymore. What’s with that? My hair is thinning. My appetite is changing. My heart gets a little lonely for my kids. Some days I feel very lonely and isolated and different. And other days I feel very engaged and full and understood.
So I just wanted to take this Coffee Time today to let you know those things.
When I was in college I used to break the stress and take a breather by going to the library, venturing down to the basement. That was where they kept all the magazines. Racks and racks of magazines. I loved magazines. I still love magazines. At one time I became obsessed with old magazines. I spent hours culling through McCall’s from the 1920s and 1930s.
That’s kind of how I see Dressed for My Day. I want it to be that magazine that gives you a breather, an opportunity to escape or just pamper yourself or just reset. I don’t pretend that this is life-changing stuff here. So if you’re ever reading one of my fashion posts and it sounds like I’m thinking this is rocket science, ha! Just know that I’m trying to be professional and provide you a polished product, but at the end of the day…it’s just a magazine.
We may just look at some pretty clothes or swap beauty product favorites or urge each other to get out there and exercise, and that’s okay. Honestly, that’s how I like it here on Dressed for My Day most days. But that doesn’t make us shallow or silly women. That means we’re serious, smart, capable and accomplished women taking a break from the challenges of life…to look at pretty clothes. And you don’t have to go to the library basement.
Have a great weekend gals!
I have two new Christmas 2018 Gift Guides up today! Yay! Speaking of being empty nesters, these are gift guides for our children! I have a Gift Guide for Your Young Men and a Gift Guide for Your Young Women. These are lists largely created with tips from my two grown kids. But I also just found other things out there that I know they’ll like. I bet your kids will, too.
Remember, you can always find these in the Christmas 2018 Gift Guides tab at the top of my blog. You can also access them both below.
Blessed for Your Day
Here’s one thing I do know about getting older: We’re never too old to learn more about Jesus and to grow in the depth of our relationship with Him. As we begin the last month of this year and journey quickly toward 2019, it’s a good time to begin thinking about goals for the new year. What are some ways you can spend a little more time with the Lord this next year? I mean, let’s face it, we have at least a little more time to ourselves than we use to. I realize it gets taken up somewhere, but we should be able to find a little more time for a Bible study or scripture memorization or reading through the Bible. Today let’s begin thinking and praying about how we’ll grow in the Lord in 2019.
but grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory, both now and to the day of eternity. Amen. ~ 2 Peter 3:18