Happy weekend, dear gal! I hope you have something you enjoy planned for the weekend. I think it’s so important that we take a day or two each week to refresh our souls, both through worship and healthy self-care. The weekend is a great time to get out to enjoy the beautiful colors of autumn, go for a hike, get coffee later in the morning or eat outside on the patio. But it’s also a good time for us talk inner beauty. So let’s talk about the beauty of not being easily offended.
As we inch closer to Election Day, I fear that we are all getting a little more on edge. I know I am. And that’s after spending months upon months cooped up in our homes, limited in our social interaction and watching our waistlines expand in our sweat pants. Ha! Yeah, it’s easy to be a little testy right now.
But if ever there’s been a day when we need to give grace more lavishly, we’re definitely living in it. Lines have been drawn in almost every arena of our lives. Even in our families, our churches, our neighborhoods and our social media feeds we’re constantly reminded that even the people we love and admire are on different sides of the issues from us. I dare say few of us are able to find even one other individual who agrees on absolutely every little thing with us.
Why we’re easily offended…
That’s why I think it’s more important than ever that we be women who are not so easily offended.
And that’s hard. Right? Especially when…
- we’ll feel there’s so much at stake.
- things feel personal.
- we’ve invested a lot of time or effort or money into something being called into question.
- we feel misunderstood.
- the other person seems insensitive and cruel.
Can you think of other reasons why we sometimes are so easily offended?
If we look at that list, we soon realize that personal offenses are generally tied to our feelings of self-worth. And I’ve found that any time my feelings or emotions are generating or guiding my behavior, the solution is to speak truth over them.
Remember, feelings are real, but they are not always trustworthy.
Just because I feel hurt or misunderstood or even devalued does not mean I should respond from that position. That’s called wearing my feelings on my sleeve. And that, dear friend, is never attractive.
How can I be less easily offended?
As I’ve been fielding some not-so-kind comments on my YouTube channel recently, I’ve been thinking through how I can be less easily offended. Don’t get me wrong, 99% of the comments I receive are so positive and kind and generous. But it only takes one very snarky and biting comment to get my ire up. Yeah, that’s how quickly I can go from feeling loved and affirmed to feeling offended.
Anyhow…here are a few things I’ve learned. See if these principles might help you in the areas in which you are sometimes easily offended, too.
- I have to determine not to be easily swayed by other people’s opinions – whether positive or negative. People pleasing never bodes well, regardless of the temperature of the current sentiments.
- I have to consciously elevate truth over my feelings. Instead of giving weight to my feelings, I have to let the truth anchor me.
- I have to give people room to feel differently than I do without labeling them as bad or stupid or other negative labels. Even if the other person says something that seems to devalue me, I choose to value them as a person.
- I don’t need to give other people’s opinions the power to get me off course or even to question my decisions. Especially if the person is sitting in the cheap seats and is not on the playing field with me. Know what I mean? If I’m putting myself out there in some area and they are not, then they don’t get the power to sway me off course.
- I must continue to see other people, even when the disagree with me, as people who are created in the image of God and worthy of my gracious respect. That doesn’t mean I have to respect their opinion; but it does mean I treat them with respect and kindness.
Well, these are just a few of my thoughts. Of course, in this recent video I addressed how to respond to people instead of reacting. But today I really wanted to think more along the lines of not being so easily offended to begin with. I’m not totally sure I stuck to my original thought line, but I hope I at least got the conversation started.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how we can be less easily offended. I think it’s so important as we continue to live, work and even worship alongside people who see things differently than we do.
Do you have thoughts you’d like to share about today’s topic? I’d love to hear from you today! I tend to take as much time off from work as I can during the weekends, so I may not reply to your comments unless you ask me a direct question. But I’d love for you to carry on this conversation in the comment section below. And you can know for certain that I read and value each and every comment. Please remember that I try to keep this space free from controversy, so let’s stay away from the topic of politics or other divisive issues.