Remember the opening scene in the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding? Nia Vardalos’ character Toula is riding into work at her family’s restaurant with her father. It’s a dreary, rainy day and at some point Toula’s father makes the day feel even more hopeless when he tells her with a thick Greek accent, “You just look so old!” Sure enough, we soon discover Toula is much younger than she looks, and later we watch her transform herself into a more vibrant, youthful woman – who soon earns the affections of Ian, a handsome non-Greek American played by John Corbett. Somewhere along the way mousy, frumpy Toula (those are her words, not mine!) learned a few fashion fixes that helped her look more beautiful and less tired. And today I’d like to share a few fixes that Toula used and we can to…so we don’t look so old!
Fashion Fix #1 – Free Up Your Hair
I grew up in the 80s, in the days of hot rollers, curling irons and lots of hairspray. But things have changed, ladies. Today’s hairstyles are freer, looser and more casual. Regardless of the cut or texture of your hair, you’ll look younger and more current if you allow your hair some freedom.
That has taken some “gettin’ used to” for me. But when I did learn to let my hair fall a little more loosely and frame my face a little more softly, I noticed a marked difference in my appearance.
You can tell from the photos above that a youthful appearance does not hinge on the color of your hair. Several of the women in these pictures have some gray, but they still look more vibrant because they’ve resisted the urge to over style or over spray. And yes, you can spray your hair. But just use something that allows for more play and not so much stay.
Fashion Fix #2 – Not So Much Oatmeal; More Color
Save the oatmeal for breakfast. Choose color instead whenever you can. That’s not to say you can never wear colors like beige, brown, taupe or gray. But just keep in mind that these colors can age you if you’re not strategic about how you wear them. For instance, if you must wear a solid, muted shade of suit or dress for work, make sure the cut is current, your shoes are stylish and your jewelry is youthful (more about that to come).
But whenever I can, I choose color. Just the difference between a pale blue suit and an oatmeal colored one is tremendous. And if I do wear a beige suit, for instance, I select a colorful silk top to wear under it and maybe add some colorful jewelry or handbag. (By the way, I’m sharing a beige suit with you soon here on the blog. But watch what I wear with it!)
Fashion Fix # 3 – No Frumpy Shoes!
I received a short email from a high school friend the other day simply asking me to sign her up to my blog’s subscription list. But she also briefly noted that she feels like she “dresses too old.” Now I haven’t seen this friend in over 30 years, but from photos on Facebook I can tell this woman is as beautiful as she was at our high school graduation. Still, she got me to thinking about what it means to “dress too old.”
As I looked around and studied people out and about, I noticed that you can wear a really stylish and current outfit, but if your shoes are frumpy…it’s all for naught!
Look, I know some gals need to wear certain kinds of shoes that provide extra comfort and support. Whether you have a foot condition or you have a job where you’re on your feet all day, you understandably want to wear shoes that feel good and do no harm. And you should certainly take care of your feet.
But these days that’s no excuse for wearing frumpy shoes. In the photo above you can see shoes that are available today that provide both comfort and style. In fact, I’ll provide links to these shoes in a widget at the end of this section. But the main lesson here is to always choose to wear shoes that get the job done…but also keep you looking fabulous and youthful…head to toe!
Fashion Fix #4 – Try Some Delicate Jewelry
I’m actually advising against conventional wisdom here. I know that bold statement necklaces and blingy earrings are in. And I wear them. But I’ve noticed that most of my younger friends opt for very delicate, feminine and dainty jewelry. They seem to choose more understated pieces.
So that makes me think that maybe our huge statement necklaces are aging us a bit. I’m going to try (once again this is a stretch for me!) to select understated pieces in the future. The necklaces, earrings and bracelet above are good examples. But you might want to keep an eye on your younger friends and family members, too, to see what they’re wearing.
Here are a few selections to consider.
Fashion Fix #5 – Choose Floral Prints Wisely – Think Modern
Floral prints are everywhere – on clothing, handbags and even shoes. But I think as we get older we need to be cautious about which prints we select to wear, especially on larger garments such as dresses, blouses and jackets. I’ve tried to pin down exactly what it is that makes a print look old-fashioned as opposed to current, but I’m having a difficult time nailing down a formula. Maybe you have a suggestion.
But what I’ve settled on is that I simply need to “think modern” when selecting floral prints. You see, retro and old-fashioned prints actually appeal to me. They look sweet, slightly aged, nostalgic. Maybe they appeal to you, too. But I need to learn to appreciate these prints without wearing them! Instead, if I want to buy a new floral dress or skirt, I need to look for one that is decidedly current. I need to choose colors that are specifically in style now. To help with that, here are some shades that are hot on the scene right now in Spring/Summer 2018 (You’ll notice some of these shades in the dress to the right in the photo above.):
Fashion Fix Challenge
Toula took the fashion fix challenge in My Big Fat Greek Wedding. She went from frump to fabulous. Now, I know none of you are frumpy! But as we get older we do have to make a conscientious effort to stay current and fresh. Really, I’ve found that looking youthful and vibrant is not about dressing for a certain age; it’s more about dressing the body you have now for the day you’re living in now. That means being mindful of what looks good on you…and what is trending now…and working your own personal magic to combine the two in a way that works…for you.
Is there a fashion fix that speaks to you here? Or maybe you have another fashion fix to share with all of us that would keep us from “looking so old!” We’d love to hear it. Do tell!
I’m linking this post to the Style Wise linkup, where so many fabulous ladies offer style tips and examples every week. And be sure to check out the style tips at Jo-Lynne Shane’s Fashion Friday Linkup, too.
Blessed for My Day
A sweet friend shared with me Psalm 37 this morning. It was perfect for me and the situations I’m facing in life. She texted me this morning that she is praying this Psalm for me. I love that. I think when we pray in accordance with God’s Word He delights in that and leans in close, ready to answer our prayers. Do you have a scripture you are praying for yourself or someone else right now?
Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. ~ Psalm 37:3-4